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5 Practical Steps to Heal From Relationship Trauma

Kayla Johnson, Trauma

When women experience relationship trauma, the emotional pain can be intense and long-lasting. We pour so much of ourselves into our connections, making it incredibly difficult to cope when things go wrong. The emotional devastation can feel overwhelming, almost like the foundations of our world have crumbled.

I’m Kayla Johnson, a Marriage and Family Therapist at Fearlessly Inspired Therapeutic Solutions. I believe in the power of relationships, even after you’ve been hurt.

And in this article, I’ll share 5 practical steps to help you heal from relationship trauma.


1. Acknowledge the Pain


It’s natural to want to avoid the pain of emotional wounds, especially after a challenging relationship. However, suppressing your emotions will only prolong the healing process.

In order to truly move forward, it’s essential to acknowledge and process what you’re feeling. Talking through your experiences can help you gain clarity and release emotional tension.

Try talking to a trusted friend or family member who can offer a listening ear and non-judgmental support.

Or try journaling. Writing down your thoughts and feelings allows you to explore them in a safe and private space, without any external pressure.


2. Challenge the Blame Game


Self-blame after a bad relationship is a common and painful trap. It’s tempting to replay every scenario, searching for your own missteps and shortcomings.

But here’s the crucial thing to remember: your worth is not defined by another person’s actions.

When self-blame whispers in your ear, actively counter it by remembering what’s true about you and affirm your worth.


3. Reconnect with Yourself


When trauma disrupts our lives, it can leave us feeling lost, disoriented, and even questioning who we are at our core. The activities that once brought us joy and fueled our sense of self can seem forgotten or irrelevant.

Instead, try revisiting the activities or hobbies that you once enjoyed. This can help you reconnect with who you are at your core, independent of the pain you’ve experienced, promoting a sense of well-being and reducing stress.


4. Set Healthy Boundaries


In the wake of relationship trauma, protecting your emotional well-being is important. This means cultivating the courage to set healthy boundaries around your time, energy, and emotional space.

Learning to say “no” might look like limiting contact with your ex. This could involve reducing text messages, or social events, or interactions that feel emotionally draining or overwhelming, even if it means disappointing others.


5. Seek Support


The path to healing after relationship trauma can feel isolating and overwhelming. However, you don’t have to navigate this journey alone. Seeking support from a trauma-informed therapist offers a critical lifeline and can significantly accelerate your healing process.

They will listen with empathy and understanding, validating your emotions and experiences. This can be incredibly empowering, helping you reclaim your self-worth and rebuild your confidence.

They can also equip you with practical tools and strategies for managing triggers and navigating difficult emotions.


If you’re ready to take the first step towards a brighter future, click the link below this video and schedule a consultation with us today. We are here to help you build a future filled with happiness, self-love, and healthy connections.